Learn why you became a perfectionist: The many factors that influence your mindset

Welcome to the third article in our series on dealing with perfectionism. Last time, we explored signs that suggest you are struggling with perfectionism. This time, we will explore the causes that make us feel that way.

Family Dynamics

Family dynamics play a significant role in the formation of your perfectionism. If your parents were too critical or demanding, you might feel pressured to perform at all costs. The constant high expectations might mold you into someone who values success above all else. You may feel like you deserve praise only when you are perfect. These dynamics can create a setting where you learn to equate your worth with your achievements. Nothing less than perfect is adequate.

Cultural Factors

Cultural factors can also make you form perfectionism. Society likes to push the idea that perfection is necessary for you to be accepted. Mainstream media promotes images of perfect bodies and relationships. Social media tells you that other people's lives are perfect. Gender expectations also matter, with women often facing higher standards of appearance and behavior.

Personal Experience

Above all, your personal experiences matter. For instance, If you attended a school that enforces very high academic standards, you might feel like a loser if you did less than perfect. This experience can mold you into a perfectionist who expects only the best from yourself. However, you might develop a more realistic view if your teachers taught you that it is okay to make mistakes. The experience can turn you into a person who values growth over perfection.

Conclusion

Many things can make you feel obsessed with being perfect. Your family, culture, and personal experience affect your view of your role in the world. Knowing the causes of your perfectionism can help you begin to challenge and overcome it.